Readers Questions | How Long DO You Burn Candles for Reconciliation?
Posted by Jacqueline on Nov 8th, 2009 in Readers Questions | Comments Off on Readers Questions | How Long DO You Burn Candles for Reconciliation?
A reader wants to know when is it time to consider their candle spell is NOT working and when to move on.
Jacqueline,
Thank you for such a great website! I am writing you because I have been burning candles for about two months now for my boyfriend to come back to me and I haven’t seen any results. Why is my candle spells not bringing him back?
Jasmine
There are many factors to consider when burning candles to bring about a change. In your case, I would have started with a consultation and reading to see if any, if at all, spell work would bring him back. Now, this may fly in the face of this purpose of my writings, but one thing you have to consider is this: Is this good for YOU (the petitioner)?
Case in point, I did a consultation for a woman who threw her boyfriend out about three months before contacting me. She took three months to figure out if she wanted him back in her life. In conversation with her, she revealed that he was under the suspicion of ‘fooling around’ and might not have been ‘husband worthy’ – meaning not someone who you could base a possible future on.
During an argument, she threw him out, along with all his things (uh-oh, there goes the DNA for spell work). The she simmers and stews and after three months, either finds out the grass-might-not-be-so-green on ‘tuther side or she has no other ‘prospects’ calling on her. She wants the now-ex-boyfriend back.
First thing I told her is that she has thrown out all the possible samples of DNA (remember, having something of a personal nature is the best thing to hoodoo with). I’m talking toothbrush, hairbrush, soiled Kleenex, condoms, cigarette butts, roaches (yes, I have made a love charm with THAT), napkins, stray hairs on the pillow, sheets or elsewhere – all of it-GONE.
Then, I told her she would have to burn three months of candles to get to what I call “Ground Zero” – the point of time that was made up with candle burnings to roll back time – spiritually – to the point of argument. Now this can be calculated as 5 days per candle and burn them all at once to facilitate getting ‘time’ back to the moment she threw him out. So, this can be done at the same time the new candle work to bring him back to her. She now would have to burn candles to being him back. Impossible to do – NO – but extremely difficult. I reminded her that men are like bears; give the man a place to sleep and good food and they will stay. He might have ‘moved on’, given he doesn’t have a ‘Mama Bear’ to come home to. The most primal emotional point is SURVIVAL, and he needs to get out of the cold and get nourishment – PERIOD.
I told her to approach a time frame factor in which she will burn candles and then if she did not have any indications of any positive movement towards a reconciliation, then to move on herself. I reminded her what I say to every client – that Candle Spells can work as rapidly as three days – AND – can take as long as three months to show any results. Unfortunately, we want a ‘Burger King’ approach to candle spell work – Have it “your way” and have it now.
Another thing to consider is this – When you let God (in his many avatars and manifestations) make the ‘choice’ whether this man was perfect for you or not, you are then allowing the natural flow of Life to occur. Who know if this man, in a couple of years, may make your life completely miserable – or on second thought – YOU making HIS life completely miserable (God don’t play favorites here).
Finally, how on point is your candle spell? Who are you getting your advice from? I took a telephone call the other day from someone who was told to burn yellow candles for love – WHHAAAATT???? Yellow is for Success – in matters of Career. money and Scholastic endeavors. Now why would a candle shop person suggest yellow for love and not pink or even red (passion) for that matter?
In conclusion, with all of this information, begin to surmise whether continuing to do candle work for a reconciliation is worth it – and – give yourself a timeline in which it is to happen. You can then ‘close the chapter’ on this part of your life and look towards a brighter future. When you want to move on, write me about the Black Walnut Cut and Clear Bath.
Good Luck
Jacqueline
